No One Gives A Shit About The Kind Of Mom I Am

Wannabee BLUNT
Written by Wannabee BLUNT

I’m a good mom.

I’m a bad mom.

And the only person who really gives a flying fuck about what kind of Mom I am. Oh and occasionally my husband and children.

But, there are certain things you would never hear a good mom say.

A good mom would NEVER say:

1. Stop crying. No, she would never instruct you to do that, because a good mom would accept and encourage your emotional outpouring; she may even contend it is a necessary form of self-care. A good mom would tell you that crying is not weak, but rather a sign of strength and that it means you are confronting your emotions.
You know what I say? And I say it almost daily: Stop being such a cry baby!
You see…
—–> bad mom over here <—-

2. What’s wrong with you? A good mom would absolutely not ask this question of their child because good moms know that nothing is wrong with their kids; if anything, something is simply wrong with their behavior. A good mom knows much better than to make their child believe that there is a problem with them as a person.
You know what I say? And I say it every time I can’t imagine what the child was thinking when they did a thing: What the heck is wrong with you!?!
You see…
—–>very bad mom over here <——
(Ok, I actually don’t say this one because I’m not that bad.)

3. Or else! Because a good mom would never threaten her children, right? A good mom would never ever toss around verbal abuse inside of her home. A good mom knows that an “or else” threat is baseless and lacks credibility. A good mom understands the importance of steering clear of this because she knows how important it is that her children take her words seriously.

You know what I say? And I say it almost daily: “Do/Don’t [insert absolutely anything here] or else you won’t [insert absolutely anything here].
You see…
—–> bad mom over here <——

I guess after tallying my “bad mom” points from above, I surely am not that good. Still, I think there are worse out there raising kids too, the world is full of us bad moms. You see, the truth is I have set parenting expectations pretty low for myself so that I can achieve them

—-> That doesn’t make me bad, IT MAKES ME SMART.

 

Nicole Merritt is a mother of three and the Owner and Founder of jthreeNMe, an imperfectly authentic peek at real-life marriage, parenting, and self-improvement. jthreeNMe is raw, honest, empowering, inspiring, and entertaining; it’s like chicken soup for those that are exhausted, over-stressed and under-inebriated, yet still utterly happy. Nicole’s work has been featured by Scary Mommy, The Good Men Project, BLUNTmoms, Thought Catalog, Everyday Family, Women on the Fence & many others. You can follow Nicole at jthreeNMe and on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram & Twitter!

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Wannabee BLUNT

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