I know the bully topic is a hot one, and I could be walking on a dangerous line posting this, but hey, that is what this forum is for, right? Saying the stuff we are too afraid to admit to?
So, on bullies.
Yes. Bullies are bad. Bullying is wrong, I get all that, but what I don’t understand is why it is okay for society to “out” and then publicly draw and quarter a bully?
Take for example the lovely newscaster who “outed” her bully on national tv, Yes, she shouldn’t have been called those nasty things or told she was a “bad example” but neither should she have announced all of this to the world. I imagine the “bully” in this situation, with the one misstep he took, a single moment of idiocy, has now been branded “BULLY” by the world.
And I am going to go out on a limb here – I am guessing his life pretty much sucks now.
Ditto with our lovely nurse who effed up and share personal information about Princess Kate’s funny tummy troubles. . . except she ended up killing herself.
So, where does one draw the bullying line?
It is wrong to bully one person, but when a whole country/town/world bullies the bully back everything is cool and okie dokie?
Please don’t tell me we all still believe the old “eye for an eye” concept as well.
If you are celebrating a world of no bullying today, I think it is time to take it one step further. By creating a world of no bullies it means that we are going to have to start accepting the ones who have been labelled bullies, acknowledge that they are human beings as well.
We are going to have to forgive them. And we are going to have to help them forgive themselves.
Because I know I have fucked up before, and that I am not perfect, and that sometimes a case of “bullying” is just another situation of one side versus the other. Should a person be black listed from society because of this? She would take our kids school yard fights to the courthouse and our cyber trolls to the public for judgement?
Or, should we just maybe tell them to “bite me” and move along with our day?
I hate to say stop making such a big deal about bullying . . . because it is “wrong”, but let’s be respectful about how we deal with it. Let’s stop and think for a minute before we pull the so-called gun on our Bully . . . because you are just taking their place when you do.
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Everybody laughs when an on screen bully gets an anvil on the head. When a bully is outed, the mob mentality takes over and they want to see that person punished.
Hey, nobody likes an anvil on the cranium gag more than me, but I think when children in particular bully, there is some shit going on, and they need to be dealt with by a swift and serious installation of empathy brain cells. We can do it easy with nice talk, or this mama is going to go all Clockwork Orange on their ass.
A great perspective. I was thinking of another side today too, just because someone doesn’t want to wear pink to show support doesn’t mean they like bullying. Maybe they just don’t like pink and we shouldn’t “bully” them into it. I think the whole world it over thinking the whole bullying thing
There is no worse bully than a gang of them trying to shove their cause down their throat.