Don’t Call My Thirteen Year Old a Whore

Wannabee BLUNT
Written by Wannabee BLUNT

My husband and I are older parents. He is 61 and I am 47 and our daughter is 13. I am the age of most of her peers’ grandmother’s and my grey hair matches their first impression of us. Hell, my husband’s mustache is older than their parents. We have a nice home, in a nice neighborhood, but that was timing on her dad’s part. In 1985 he bought it with updates needed. So, we live in the “right area” and in the “right district” but it’s so difficult. Our daughter is on her FOURTH Junior High School.

She left one school due to being called whore because she is so boy-crazy! That is the only adjective they seemed to have for someone who likes boys. She has never sold her body for sex, if I recall, that is the definition of whore. She was being rejected by all of her peers, but mostly girls. There was a shooting in the field and when the school insisted that the shooter did NOT have the gun in classes, that was a bold-faced lie. He was in 2 classes with our daughter and had the gun with him all day. So, backpacks are no longer allowed in classes. (the one with the gun was taunted by the other boy and his friends “shoot me” and then the shooter said, knowing the victim’s mother had died, “you want me to send you to your mother” – after he shot, point blank 2x the victim, he dropped the gun and cried – HE WAS A LITTLE BOY).

She left the next Jr. High because she assisted a Special Needs child from some of the “cool” (that means MEAN and FEARED children) kids. The next day, she could not get to her locker because about 20 boys were surrounding it waiting on her. They asked her why she is a snitch and did she know that snitches get stitches… she barely made it through that day with her emotions intact. The next morning, she texted me that they were around her locker again, even though her dad discussed this with the Vice Principal, and so I took her out immediately. She felt unsafe. We moved her again.

If your child is crying out – MOVE THEM – find a way, it is easy and move them – why, why allow them to stay – what if they don’t get through it? What if they reach a breaking point? Why take a chance?

Our child is only an only child due to 2 miscarriages – she is lonely and it is so hard for us to watch. She says: “you won’t understand”, but we do; “you don’t get it”, but we do; we just have to watch it happen and cry for her –

She is lovely and they call her ogre and transvestite and she just longs for girlfriends, but she is well-endowed and they resent her; the boys want her, the girls hate her, and she is alone.

How do you get them through this? How do you let them go when lonely is what you see as the result?

She knows what they say to each other…. here’s one they like to use “I bet your mother rapes you” (that statement has made 2 different boys react with violence, go figure) – and they mix things up because “back in my day” the “F” word was so taboo and now that is no biggie; and political correctness; socially correct and safe spaces – have caused them to come up with ideas that are put to words to ensure that pain is ensued upon a peer. She said the kids at her school say it all the time “I’m going to shoot him/her” and the teachers say “they are just talking” – but when is it “just talking” and a serious problem? IF the kids were told they could not use statements like that, then it doesn’t become “just the usual” “he always says that” kind of language.

So, we keep all her sign-in’s – she’s not allowed to change the passwords or delete texts or pictures, calls; etc. without asking permission; and she cannot post anything with a gun; if it is inappropriate, she is to report it and then block them; and all this to ensure that she is appropriate.

The only advise I give new mothers: you have to go through Jr. High again – and you cannot help them the way you used to be able to. They no longer need you to tie their shoes; but they do need you to mend their hearts.

I suppose that’s all I can do for now.

 

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Wannabee BLUNT

Wannabee BLUNT

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